Sunday, July 20, 2014

Venue

I was looking after my most recent blog post for ceremony related things.  I took the step that scared me the most, looking for venues.  Venues are expensive, and when I searched for anything with the word "venue" in the search, we were looking at between $1,500 and $5,000.  Fuck that noise.

Then I got smart.  I looked for simpler, but still in keeping with my mental theme.  First, state parks... cheap, but the good spots are several hours drive from Denver.  Then, with little hope for something pretty, I searched Denver parks, and I found the perfect spot for $350. 

Washington Park Boathouse is a historic structure, has the space, plenty of parking, is on a lake, will be great for pretty pictures, and it has that southern gothic feel I wanted.  The fee gets us the venue for almost 12 hours.

Here's some pics of it....







Saturday, July 19, 2014

Two years

In two years, my owner and I will be having a commitment ceremony to honor our relationship and exchange locking bracelets.  I already feel a twinge of nervousness for announcing this, planning it, and the haunting whispers of phrases that I know I'll have to repeat over and over. 

 "This is not a wedding."  There may be similarities to a wedding.  Two people are making a commitment to each other, and I have no social reference for what we're doing.  In effect, I'm creating a ceremony based on who we are and what I know.

"I'm sorry, but we're keeping it small."  There will be people not invited.  There will be people close to us that aren't invited.  I have to make some crucial choices about guest list.  No, my mother is not going to understand the M/s aspects of the ceremony, but since I'm never having a wedding, she gets to come.

 "Be nice"  I really won't have to say this, but it's one of the phrases in my head.  If I don't think that you can be nice to the other people invited, you won't be invited.  There will be both vanilla guests and "lifestyle" guests.  There will be guests of different faiths.  There will be guests who differ in every way people can possibly differ, except one.  Everyone invited will have manners.

"I need help."  This is a hard one for me, but once this thing begins, I will need some things taken care of for me.  I'm not doing cleanup from my own ceremony.  There are just some things I know shouldn't happen.


There are probably a bunch of other things I'll have to tell people when I'm planning this thing.  I'm hoping that everyone will be supportive of our pseudo-public statement of love.  Two years is a long way off, but will go so fast with our already busy life. 

 

Sunday, December 15, 2013

More craftiness: Delicate Hamper

I've been redoing my room and I've come up with some adorable crafty things to do.  Well, come up with is a little off... this one I saw on the internet some time ago and I've just now figured to do it... lol.

I needed a delicates hamper for my girly stuff, and I just happened to have a couple embroidery hoops from the thrift store. 

I grabbed one and stretched the top of a pillow case over the smaller half of the hoop and screwed the larger half on over it and added some ribbon.

Here it is!


Craftiness: Monkey Bulliten Board

I feel the need to post my craftiness. I'm redoing my room and needed a little bulletin board.  I took an upholstery fabric sample with monkeys on it, put it in a picture frame with a little backing behind it, and I took out the glass.  Voila!



Thursday, June 13, 2013

Christmas in June

Things get busy for us during the summer.  Giz plants a garden and the shop gets busy, and I get to spend the summer entertaining kids and harvesting fruit when it's time.  We go apple, cherry, plum, and grape picking as things ripen, along with any other fruit that people have too much of.  Then I spend hours in the kitchen boiling, canning, jam making, freezing, and dehydrating the produce so we have lots of fresh goodies come wintertime.

With summer (into fall) being the time to prepare for winter, my inner Christmas love comes out.  How could I be thinking of Christmas in the hot summer, you ask?  Because I hate scrambling in November and December, scraping money together during that last month to make the holiday special.  I find that a little preparation each month, beginning in summertime, means that your budget won't take a hit at all come the holiday season.  Some people don't like the holidays enough to do this much planning, but fortunately, I'm a little nutty.

Example, I just picked up a 7.5 foot tall, prelit tree that retails just over $200.  What did I pay?  Exactly NOTHING.  How did I do that?  Well it's the middle of summer and I watch craigslist free ads, freecycle, and barter group ads for little gems like this.  Someone spring cleaning or moving doesn't consider their tree a priority when they have to move it around.  So I get an expensive tree that's barely been used thanks to someone not wanting to fool with it.  Yes, people can be that wasteful.

It's been a banner month for holiday prep too.  I picked up a wreath for an estimated $2 at the Goodwill Outlet near me.  Goodwill outlet carries all the leftovers that did not sell at other Goodwills (and even other non-goodwill thrift stores).  Everything is in bins, so you have to dig through a little.  It's a lot like a treasure hunt, and when you hit pay-dirt, it's worth it.  They charge clothes and household merchandise by the lb. and books are 99c each.  If you get over 20lbs, your purchase is 99c a pound.  If you get over 70lbs, which we've done a few times, your price is even lower.  For heavy items, they will give you a flat price that makes other thrift stores look expensive.  Once, I even found a sterling silver bracelet in a bin amongst some discarded costume jewelry!

Things I got on my last trip to the outlet-
Christmas stocking - est price $0.25
Huge box of perfect condition wooden building blocks - $3.00 (saving those to give the girls for Christmas!)
Baby bouncer - $1.99 (retails $35)
Leapfrog Music Learning Table - $1.99 (retails $45)
Framed Print from NYC Museum of Art - $2
New Monster Stuffed Animals (for girls' christmas) - est. $0.50 each (retail $13 each)
Nice Plush Easter Basket - est. $0.25
Sleeping bag, kids clothes, childs backpack (all 99c a pound)

Trip before that I got a Baby Einstein exersaucer that retails well over $50 for $5.

Some toys and the like, I save for the kids for Christmas.  The girls are as spoiled as any other little ones during the holidays.  The difference is, I don't go broke to make that happen.  I don't go broke because I shop smart, and I don't do all my shopping in the same 4 week span.  I spread it out with a little purchase at a time.  The same goes for other gifts I buy.  If you get a present for Christmas from me, it might have been in my closet since summertime waiting just for you because I found what I wanted to get you on sale at the time.

Thanks to free groups and thrift shops, I now have all our holiday decorations save the ornaments.  That means I can get one nice set of ornaments to reuse year after year because I saved so much with the other things.

This may all read like one big cheap lady's brag post, but it's a spelled out plan that you can take advantage of.  Who cares if your tree is new or when you picked up your gifts?  Does your little child really care if every toy they receive is new?  Up to a certain age, they don't really know the difference.  They just know they got a toy!  The upside is, while you are still teaching them to take care of things, the few toys they break aren't so hard to replace since you didn't spend $50 on them to start with.

Clothes are another thing that I refuse to buy new until they are a certain age.  My girls are 2 and 3 right now.  They stain things, they grow out of things quickly.. I'm not paying $20 for a dress that they might wear only a few times.  I got their beautiful dresses for the Easter egg hunt for 50 cents each.  They looked brand new and both girls were happy.  While I was getting their dresses, I picked up their baskets, a ton of plastic eggs, and 5 of those egg dye kits for next to nothing as well.  For about $20 total, I was able to host an egg hunt for my kids and a friend's kids!

Both their Halloween costumes for this coming fall might have cost $1 each.  They'll wear them ONCE and I could have spend $30 each to get them retail.  Call me cheap if you like, but how far would an extra $60 go in your house?  We can afford nice things sometimes because we are frugal about other things.  The youngest will be a monkey and the oldest a ladybug.  Both will be warm.  Denver has been known to get it's first snow of the season on Halloween.

By winter, both will have a few high end party dresses from the thrift store... we're talking the ones that some parents shell out $50-$75 each for!  I'm not kidding... go look at www.mygirldress.com or www.bestdressedchild.com sometime.  The same parents that shell out that dough donate these things to thrift stores, where I'm smart enough to pick them up (sometimes still with tags) for 95-99% off what they paid.  My kids look amazing at our holiday parties and I don't freak out if they spill something.

What's the take away on this long ramble?  Shop early, shop often, and if you can avoid it.. don't shop at all.  Why pay for what's free?  Why let perfectly good stuff go to the landfill because of snobbery or shame?  Why spend for cheap, poorly made crap from Walmart when your home, your kids, and even you can have nice, quality things for less than you'd pay for the cheap stuff?  Why stress about whether to spend a fortune or let your kids miss out on something when you can go above and beyond for pennies?

The only tools you need are pre-planning skills and one big closet or storage area to keep boxes in.  Make a list of the things you need for each holiday.  Get a box and label it with the name of the holiday.  Start collecting the stuff you need.  Then, reuse what you can year after year.  Easter baskets and plastic eggs can be boxed up and reused year after year.  So can most of your holiday decor (for any holiday).  Birthday candles and gift bags can be picked up in bulk, so you always have them on hand.  Don't forget hand-me-downs either.  This year the oldest is a ladybug... next year, her younger sister might be a ladybug.  I just have to save the costume in my Halloween box.  If you can make a list and keep an inventory, this process is simple.  It also means you can be constantly upgrading what you have.  Last year I had a 4ft tree on a table.. this year, a better one.  I can give my older nice things to people that need them and consistently upgrade what I have.

Friday, June 7, 2013

Guilt free ranch dressing!

There are things we all have trouble giving up, and the thought of having salads regularly without creamy, yummy ranch dressing worried me.  So I took to the internet and did some research.  Now I've made my own ranch dressing, and there will be no guilt when I squeeze it on my veggies!

To package it after I mixed it up, I just funneled it into an empty, washed out italian dressing bottle and labeled it.  If your dressing is on the thick side (like mine) you'll have to stir your dressing with a fork inside the funnel to get it to drain through.

For my nutrition info below, I calculated the nutrition info for a half cup serving size... remember that half a cup = 8 tbsp.  The serving size is much bigger than regular ranch dressing, so pour it on if you like.

Ingredients-

2 cups Oikos fat free plain greek yogurt
1 packet Hidden Valley Ranch mix
Water


Mix the packet into two cups of the yogurt til it's fully incorporated.  Add water just a little at a time til your mixture is the consistency of ranch dressing.  Refrigerate and enjoy!


Nutrition Info:  Serving Size 1/2 cup

Calories - 65
Carbs    -  5.5
Protein  - 11g
Potasium - 120mg
Calcium -  12.5

Let's compare this recipe to regular ranch and pretend that you actually only eat the 2tbsp serving size.

Nutrition Info for Regular Ranch Dressing:
Serving size: 2 tbsp (1/4 the quantity of the above recipe)

Calories: 145
Fat: 14g
Sat. Fat: 2.5
Carbs: 2g
Sugars: 1g
Protein: 1g







Thursday, June 6, 2013

Cake Batter Protein Shake

This was an interesting recipe to come across.  I made some minor alterations to the original, and there are some notes I have to add.  First, don't add the recommended Splenda til you've made and tasted the shake.  This thing is SWEET!  I added the Splenda in the recipe and I think I'll choose to leave it out next time.  For those of you that like the heavy dessert flavor, you might opt to add it.  This really does have a great cake-batter flavor to it, and I've not had a "diet" dessert that I could indulge this much in that tasted so authentic.

2nd, don't be turned off by the ingredients here.  The cottage cheese really gives this milk-shakey texture to this.

Lastly, after you blend, if you think the shake is too thin, put it in the fridge for 5 minutes.  The pudding mix will thicken it up a bit.  If it's still too thin for you, add a little more cottage cheese or a few more ice cubes.


Here's the recipe:

1/2 cupLow fat cottage cheese 
1Scoop vanilla protein powder 
3-5 Drops vanilla
1 tbs Sugar Free Vanilla Pudding Mix (I used Jello brand)

1-2tspSplenda
1/2 cup       Water (Alter this according to desired consistency)
5-10Ice Cubes (Depending on how thick you like it, use less for a thinner consistency)      


Put the ice cubes in first, then add the rest.  You'll have to scrape the sides of the blender once or twice depending on how good your blender is.  You don't want any lumps.  Check consistency and alter to suit your tastes.  There is plenty here to split with someone if you don't want a huge dessert.  This can be stored in the fridge overnight!

Nutrition Info:
1 Shake
187 Calories
2 g Fat
5 g Carbohydrate
3 g Sugar
35 g Protein

Here are some pictures. I just added about a cup of shake to my glass, since this is such a sweet treat.