Saturday, December 3, 2011

The toddler leash debate

We recently hit up and arts and sciences thing held by the SCA. I came to terms that day with traveling with a toddler in period clothing. Keroywn wore an orange tunic, green pants, and little leather shoes. She went to classes with me, and I went to most of the children's classes so her noisy-ness wouldn't interrupt serious discussion.

The thing is, a toddler wants to run. A toddler who is missing their nap for a day of classes is especially fun to handle. I took a 6 foot piece of tablet weaving with me just in case I needed to leash her, but we had never done a leash before, so I didn't want to start that way. While I was, in theory, pro-child leash, I was worried about how it would effect her. At 2 years old, she goes from super shy to super social in the blink of and eye. She also doesn't understand why she shouldn't go anywhere she likes. Above all, she's incredibly independent and intelligent. I suppose that though I don't like to admit it, I've been slightly poisoned by the idea that a child on a leash is a dog who is not allowed to express themselves.

A few hours in, I realized that she just wasn't going to be safe in a big crowd if she could run off, but not letting her run at all wasn't an option either. I broke down and tied a basic x-harness around her, which left about 3-4 feet of "leash" for me to hold. The harness was so that if she pulled, it wouldn't stress her body. I got a few shameful looks, but all in all, the parents thought I was a genius.

She was able to walk through the food line at lunch without incident and I had my hands free to make us a plate. She was able to play with the other kids and meet adults without getting lost in the crowd.

The biggest myth about child leashes was dispelled. It doesn't turn your kid into a dog or take away their independence. She was as free, active, and social as any other time. In fact, having the leash made her popular with the older kids (10 and 11 year olds) who wanted to play with her.

At the end of the day, when we counted successes and setbacks, the leash was more of a help than anything else. The only perceivable negative effect the colorful homemade leash had is the looks and perceptions of OTHER people. She was able to safely participate in more activities than she would have without being tethered.